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“To be a hijabi or not to be a hijabi? Hmmm that is the question.” April 10, 2011

Filed under: Recommended Lectures — lamyaalmas @ 12:05 pm
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22 Responses to ““To be a hijabi or not to be a hijabi? Hmmm that is the question.””

  1. Maryan Warsame Says:

    We all need to remember why we as Sisters wear the Hijaab….and I think he covered that in his video. It isn’t to attract the opposite sex nor is it to maintain a sense of popularity amongst your Muslims sisters. It’s only for Allah (S.W.T)…. and Allah knows what’s in your heart and what isn’t. Take it or leave it.

    Also, I just remember Baba Ali did a similar video a while back. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F4jQi0Gjy3M
    WATCH IT!

  2. Thanks for the video–i remember seeing it a while ago. I will put it up insha Allah as well.

  3. little random Hussein Says:

    lol i like those videos…..

  4. I am glad you do Sofia–it kind of reminded me of our conversation the other day after halaqa 🙂

  5. Amira Mohamed Says:

    Asalam Alaikum
    I think it is better for a sister to wear hijab then not, and yes we don’t know her heart, but we have rules ya know. Hijab is a a commandment from Allah and it should start in the heart first. I know sisters who wear hijab properly but act like fools, and other sisters who don’t wear hijab at all, but never miss a prayer and for the most part act like good Muslims. Hijab is not what makes a women Muslim, but at the same time it’s not something we can just forsake. Allah knows best

  6. I guess the question is:

    1) “What is a hijab?” –is it a a piece of cloth a woman wears on her head whichever way she pleases or is it defined with clear parameters, goes beyond the mere covering of the ‘head’? And would it be a mistake to call a sister who does not conform to the parameters of this definition of the “hijab’ in Qur’an and Sunnah a ‘hijabi’ in the first place?

    2) Also the other question is the Hijab a ‘personal [fashion] statement’ or a ‘collective [representative] statement’ of a religion–Allah (SWT) says in the Qur’an: “O Prophet! Tell thy wives and daughters, and the believing women, that they should cast their outer garments over their persons (when abroad): that is most convenient, that they should be known (as such) and not harmed. And Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.” [33:59]–and I am referring here to the statement “that they should be known (as such)”? So, recognized as what exactly is my question?

    3) And related to my second question–does a ‘hijabi’ who chooses to follow Allah’s order have a duty and responsibility [behavior, manners etc.] to this choice–or she can trim and tuck it according to her needs?

    What do you all think?

  7. Plus I believe that when Allah (SWT) says, “. . . that they should be known (as such) and not harmed”–don’t you think that the ‘hijabis’ that are talked about in these two videos are harming those hijabis who are conforming to the definition in Qur’an and Sunnah? Don’t you also think they are ‘harming’ the whole concept of the hijab as it is in Islam–sending distorted images, adding fuel to fire? So much so, that those who conform to hijab–again AS defined–are placed in a basket and labeled “extreme”?

  8. manuela Says:

    i agree with the brother when he said go all out and not to sugar coat anything i like his bold way of talking

  9. Noonarabia Says:

    I liked both videos especially the later. I have a few points to make here.

    1. All three faiths, the Jewish, Christian and Muslim formally require a modest dress code. Notice the practicing Jewish Orthodox women’s clothing or the nuns at church. Why are Muslim women looked at differently?

    2.Hijab literally means covering. It is required that we muslim women cover ourselves from men. If we are wearing Hijab then we certainly should do it the right way so you get the proper reward. Covering all our hair alone is not hijab, but observing modesty is. Hijab is wearing clothes that do not reveal our body by being tight or transparent and that do not attract attention by color or design, basically we should shield ourselves from attracting any attention, especially mens’. Modesty is the key word.

    3. Hijab should be reflected in our manners and practice not just our clothes. As a muslim wearing we represent Islam, so we should have this duty in mind in everything we do, say and wear. We should always keep this in mind.
    Peace upon you all.

  10. Amira Says:

    I know we aren’t suppose to judge, but we’re humans. When an individual throws themselves out and we see. Expect to get judged. None of that, “It’s between Allah and me” card. It is no longer between that person and Allah when everyone sees.

  11. Maryama Says:

    Assalumu’alikum Sister, My view? I found this really embarrassing that a man has to tell our fellow women that some of us don’t cover properly and it gets me mad. It’s like us sisters haven’t done our job and now we give it to the guys. We only stick to cleaning, cooking, raising the children and pleasing our husband part of the faith but we haven’t been doing so good in advising our uncovered sisters.
    —-Maryama Dahir

  12. I also think that when we discuss this topic we often lose focus and hence the whole discussion–and so we start talking about pure/impure intentions, how bad vs good examples some hijabis vs non-hijabis are etc We go off on tangents so to speak–and discussion is over. The focal point is often lost. I think if we stick to the point we will get somewhere with this.

    I think that oftentimes discussions about ‘hijab’ turn into discussions in which sisters get defensive and feel that their faith [Muslimah or not Muslimah] is being questioned and under speculation-hence the “Allah knows my pure intentions ” line is whipped out. In earnest, we step on the brakes when it comes to ANY discussion about people’s intentions. Sisters relax not wearing hijab does not mean you are NOT Muslim. So, let’s not change the topic!

  13. @modestgrrl Says:

    Hijab does not indicate the level of a Muslimah’s faith and we should stop judging each other based on physical appearance. You can never tell the niyyah of the woman who wears hijab, or doesn’t wear hijab, or the one who wears hijab incorrectly. So, sisters, I remind you and myself to not assault the nafs (ego) of the sister whom we find lacking regarding hijab, but instead we make corrections that are not personal attacks but rather friendly, supportive advice.

    What hijab DOES is it liberates women from being objectified: from everyone viewing female bodies as a thing designed to make other people happy. Wikipedia does a pretty decent job of summing it up: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_objectification

    So when women start using the hijab as a means to look more attractive, such as see-through scarves, khaleeji flower clips, and elaborate designs they are buying into self-objectification and, quite possibly, committing a sin worse than woman who refuses to wear hijab. Allah SWT said:

    O Prophet! Say to your wives and your daughters and the women of the faithful to draw their outergarments (jilbabs) close around themselves; that is better that they will be recognized and not annoyed. And God is ever Forgiving, Gentle.

    Allah SWT revealed this verse to Muhammad SAWS in order to protect women from being objectified, according to Shayk Yusuf al Qaradawi: “During the period of jahiliyyah some women used to go out with the attractive parts of their bodies, such as the neck, upper part of the breast and hair, exposed, and the loafers and lechers would follow them about. Accordingly, this noble ayah came down, commanding the believing woman to cover herself with her garment so that no provocative part of her body would be visible, because her appearance would make it clear to everyone that she is a chaste, believing woman, no lecher or hypocrite would dare to molest her. It is clear from this verse that the reason for this injunction is not the fear of women’s misbehavior or mistrust of them, as some people claim, but the danger to them from lecherous and evil men; for the woman who decks herself out, walks seductively, or talks invitingly always attracts men who lust after her.”

    And remember, hijab doesn’t protect anyone from rape, since rape is an act of violence and not an act of desire.

  14. Amira Mohamed Says:

    No one can know the heart of any other person, but we can tell a little about a person by their actions. Hijab is an action, how they do it or don’t do it says alot about a person. When I see a sister in tight pants, make up, etc.. hijab or not, she does not put off a good image. With Allah she may be better then us all, but that doesn’t mean she is not sinning. As for judging her, well the Quran tells us to judge, but to judge with Quran and Sunnah.

    58. Verily! Allah commands that you should render back the trusts to those, to whom they are due; and that when you judge between men, you judge with justice. Verily, how excellent is the teaching which He (Allah) gives you! Truly, Allah is Ever All-Hearer, All-Seer.

    59. O you who believe! Obey Allah and obey the Messenger (Muhammad ), and those of you (Muslims) who are in authority. (And) if you differ in anything amongst yourselves, refer it to Allah and His Messenger (), if you believe in Allah and in the Last Day. That is better and more suitable for final determination

    4:58-59

    Everyone is afraid now days to remind anyone of anything, because most the time it doesn’t’ go over well. The person will say don’t’ judge me, or if Allah wills I would do it, or it’s between me and Allah….. on and on with excuses.

    At the same time we have the be gentle and kind. We cant’ go call a sister a whore and tell her she is going to hell. Go to her in private and give her the daleel from Quran and Sunnah. We should remind the sister because we want for her what we want for ourselves. If you want to remind her because you think you are better then her or to harm her, then you are more wrong then any sin she is committing.

    I speak to myself before anyone else, and anything I have said that is right is from Allah, anything that is wrong is from myself and shaytan.
    Allah knows best

  15. Beautiful comments maa sha Allah :

    “So, sisters, I remind you and myself to not assault the nafs (ego) of the sister whom we find lacking regarding hijab, but instead we make corrections that are not personal attacks but rather friendly, supportive advice.”–@modestgrrl

    And

    “At the same time we have the be gentle and kind. We cant’ go call a sister a whore and tell her she is going to hell. Go to her in private and give her the daleel from Quran and Sunnah. We should remind the sister because we want for her what we want for ourselves. If you want to remind her because you think you are better then her or to harm her, then you are more wrong then any sin she is committing.”–Amira

    Adding to that, those sisters who are being advised should not question the intention of those advising them either–and should place it in perspective rather than assume that the sister is in ANY WAY placing a question mark on her ISLAM-NESS [her level of Eman–faith] or her love for Allah. That is going off topic in my opinion! Advising, in a gentle manner, is one of the many manifestation of “love” for Allah (SWT) says, “Remind for a reminder benefits the believers.”

  16. manuela Says:

    1 a hijab is a way to tell other people that i am muslim and i am proud and that i deserve respect from all men and not to be looked at as in a sexual way it is a sort of a way to demand respect from the other sex.
    2 I think in many ways muslimahs they tend to think that the hijab is a fashion statement even i do sometimes i try to be fashionable with my hijab and that is not right i should not because the hijab is something that is sacred and should not be abused or not to be taken seriously because we need to wear it like how allah wants us to wear it.
    3. yes if we choose to wear hijab we have to act as accordingly and like the brother that said in the video not to act like a fool this is what i think

  17. Amira Mohamed Says:

    You are right Lamya. Both sides really need to take a step back, the giver and the receiver. Also we have to remember it’s not always what you say, but how you say it. Allah knows best

  18. Amira Mohamed Says:

    manuela yes sadly many take it as a fashion statement subhanAllah. It’s ok to look nice, we should try to look nice actually, but not take it to extreme. I was at the masjidd last Friday and I felt like I was sitting in the middle of a rainbow and stars. If this draw my eye, would it not draw a mans? I am not saying that we should dawn ourselves in all black, but have a little sense. We don’t need to wear all these bright colors with sparkles, it kind of defeats the purpose ya know. If ya like purple, wear it, but ya don’t need all the sparkles. If ya like red, don’t wear fire red, wear a darker red, etc…. We can still look nice and have a little fashion, but first and foremost adherer to the commands of Allah, He truly knows best

  19. Amira Mohamed Says:

    Go on youtube and look up hijab fashion or hijab styles, I am no scholar, but some of that stuff is borderline haram. Here is one that really bothered me,

  20. Regarding the color–we explicitly asked Sh. Yasir Qadhi during the Light of Guidance class and Sister Aysha Wazwaz as well in the Masjed once , and we realized that color and design was cultural. For instance, there is a difference in what color/s one can wear in the US vs Saudi Arabia for instance. So there is room for us there–so color is really not worrying as much here as long as it is not all out ‘disco’ if you know what i mean :). But there is room there. I am really talking about wearing it according to definition–not transparent, not tight etc.

  21. Actually in my opinion, except for the volumnizing which if i am not mistaken there is a clear hadith about [will post if i find it], this IS hijab shown in the video–according to the definition that is. Actually some of the styles remind me of those among bedouins, some rural areas in Yemen, even some cities like Sana’a and Aden. I think we need to go back to basics. Style and color are cultural–and don’t think are problematic at all. There’s the room for us to express our cultures really in this deen [religion]–Hijab is not a uniform in ‘appearance’–in that it should look like that of one particular culture for it to be a hijab– but rather in ‘principle’ and ‘definition.’

  22. Amira Mohamed Says:

    Showing style and color is not the problem, it’s beautifying the hijab that is the problem. You can look nice and have style with out all that jazz and sparkle. Allah knows best


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